{"id":598,"date":"2021-10-25T12:32:25","date_gmt":"2021-10-25T10:32:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/krkouni.cz\/?p=598"},"modified":"2021-10-25T12:32:26","modified_gmt":"2021-10-25T10:32:26","slug":"5-zpusobu-jak-detem-nechtene-branime-v-jejich-vyvoji","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/krkouni.cz\/?p=598","title":{"rendered":"5 zp\u016fsob\u016f, jak d\u011btem necht\u011bn\u011b br\u00e1n\u00edme v jejich v\u00fdvoji"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

D\u011bl\u00e1me to v dobr\u00e9m, ale v podstat\u011b jim \u0161kod\u00edme. Batolata se pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed u\u010dit nov\u00e9 v\u011bci a pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed pozn\u00e1vat hranice. Zkusme to jinak!
Nen\u00ed nad vlastn\u00ed zku\u0161enost
N\u011bkdy, kdy\u017e vid\u00edm, co se moje dcera pokou\u0161\u00ed ud\u011blat, m\u00e1m hus\u00ed k\u016f\u017ei. A n\u011bkdy m\u00e1m bl\u00edzko k mal\u00e9mu infarktu. Nap\u0159\u00edklad kdy\u017e jako 18-m\u011bs\u00ed\u010dn\u00ed lezla po \u017eeb\u0159\u00edku. Nebo kdy\u017e se ve stejn\u00e9m v\u011bku postavila na houpac\u00edho kon\u00edka v parku a tv\u00e1\u0159ila se, \u017ee surfuje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u017edy si ale \u0159eknu, \u017ee ona to pot\u0159ebuje. Pot\u0159ebuje se nau\u010dit, kde jsou hranice, co se d\u011blat d\u00e1 a co se ned\u00e1, na co kapacitu m\u00e1 a na co ne. T\u00edm, \u017ee j\u00ed to budu vysv\u011btlovat, jej\u00ed nepom\u016f\u017eu, proto\u017ee tomu nerozum\u00ed. Pokud si to ale vyzkou\u0161\u00ed, pochop\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u011bmito zp\u016fsoby v\u011bt\u0161inou batolat\u016fm necht\u011bn\u011b br\u00e1n\u00edme v pohybov\u00e9m rozvoji:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Chyt\u00e1me jejich, \u010d\u00edm\u017e ztr\u00e1cej\u00ed pud sebez\u00e1chovy
    Kdy\u017e byla Greta je\u0161t\u011b mali\u010dk\u00e1 a l\u00f3\u017e\u00ed, pan\u00ed u\u010ditelka v herni\u010dke rozlo\u017eila d\u011btskou posilovnu se \u017e\u00edn\u011bnkami, m\u011bkk\u00fdmi schody a p\u0159ek\u00e1\u017ekami. Jako d\u011bti za\u010dali p\u0159el\u00e9zat, v\u0161ichni rodi\u010de m\u011bli tendenci chytat je. „A te\u010f se v\u0161ichni postav\u00edme na druhou stranu m\u00edstnosti a budeme se na d\u011bti jen d\u00edvat,“ \u0159ekla n\u00e1m.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Bylo neuv\u011b\u0159iteln\u011b zaj\u00edmav\u00e9 sledovat, jak si ty mali\u010dk\u00e9 d\u011bti najednou, kdy\u017e tam nebyl nikdo, kdo by je chytil, za\u010dali d\u00e1vat pozor. N\u011bkter\u00e9 se p\u0159ed schody zastavili a jednodu\u0161e ne\u0161ly, proto\u017ee v\u011bd\u011bli, \u017ee je\u0161t\u011b nen\u00ed jejich \u010das. Ty d\u011bti na to fakt maj\u00ed, jen jim mus\u00edme v\u011b\u0159it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Pokud je toti\u017e budeme v\u017edy chytat, tak v nich postupn\u011b zabijeme tento pud sebez\u00e1chovy a pozd\u011bji, kolem roku a p\u016fl, u\u017e nebudou v\u011bd\u011bt rozli\u0161it, co mohou a co nemohou, proto\u017ee neznaj\u00ed ten pocit, \u017ee jsou na n\u011bco samy, a spol\u00e9haj\u00ed se na to , \u017ee je v\u017edy n\u011bkdo chyt\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    V\u0161imla jsem si to nap\u0159\u00edklad na prol\u00e9za\u010dky. Greta s jedn\u00edm kamar\u00e1dem lezla po lanov\u00e9m \u017eeb\u0159\u00edku na h\u0159i\u0161ti. Kamar\u00e1dovi se \u0161myklo a automaticky se pustil. V\u011bd\u011bl, \u017ee jeho m\u00e1ma je tam a chyt\u00ed ho.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Grete se \u0161myklo a dr\u017eela se jako drak, visela jen za ruce a sna\u017eila se naj\u00edt op\u011brn\u00fd bod, na kter\u00fd by se mohla postavit nohama. Zd\u00e1 se mi to jako velmi u\u017eite\u010dn\u00e1 dovednost, proto\u017ee jednou se m\u016f\u017ee st\u00e1t, \u017ee kamar\u00e1dovu m\u00e1ma nebude nabl\u00edzku a jestli\u017ee on pust\u00ed, nedopadne to dob\u0159e.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    1. Pom\u00e1h\u00e1me, kdy\u017e net\u0159eba
      Gretu zvyknu nechat potr\u00e1pit se. Samoz\u0159ejm\u011b ne a\u017e do st\u00e1dia, \u017ee \u0159ve jako bl\u00e1zniv\u00e1 a nev\u00ed, co se sebou. Nech\u00e1m to zaj\u00edt jen do takov\u00e9 zdrav\u00e9 frustrace, kter\u00e1 ji \u017eene ve snaze u\u010dit se nov\u00e9 v\u011bci. Pokud ale vysloven\u011b po\u017e\u00e1d\u00e1 o pomoc, jdu za n\u00ed.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      Jednou se takto pokou\u0161ela vyl\u00e9zt na houpa\u010dku, je\u0161t\u011b kdy\u017e byla mali\u010dk\u00e1. P\u0159i\u0161la tam maminka s o dost v\u011bt\u0161\u00edm chlapcem, vylo\u017eila ho na vedlej\u0161\u00ed houpa\u010dku a zeptala se m\u011b, jak dlouho nech\u00e1m to d\u00edt\u011b tr\u00e1pit se. Tak dlouho, dokud ji to bude bavit, proto\u017ee dokud nepl\u00e1\u010de a nek\u0159i\u010d\u00ed, tak to asi znamen\u00e1, \u017ee ji to bav\u00ed. Toto je dal\u0161\u00ed v\u011bc – \u010dasto si mysl\u00edme, \u017ee d\u00edt\u011b se s n\u011b\u010d\u00edm tr\u00e1p\u00ed, a p\u0159itom jeho ta aktivita bav\u00ed. Pro d\u00edt\u011b to samotn\u00e9 lezen\u00ed na houpa\u010dku je stejn\u011b z\u00e1bavn\u00e9 jako houp\u00e1n\u00ed se, pokud ne i v\u00edc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Takto jsem si v\u0161imla mnoho v\u011bc\u00ed, se kter\u00fdmi maminky pom\u00e1haj\u00ed d\u011btem zbyte\u010dn\u011b. Chodit po schodech, sk\u00e1kat, j\u00edt na skluzavku, vyl\u00e9zt na houpa\u010dku nebo na kon\u00edka, sl\u00e9zt z prol\u00e9za\u010dky, co\u017e pova\u017euji za extr\u00e9mn\u011b nebezpe\u010dn\u00e9, proto\u017ee pokud se d\u00edt\u011b nau\u010d\u00ed vyl\u00e9zt, mus\u00ed se nau\u010dit i sl\u00e9zt. N\u011bkdy se toti\u017e m\u016f\u017ee st\u00e1t, \u017ee vyleze, ani\u017e jsme si toho v\u0161imli, a nebude v\u011bd\u011bt sej\u00edt dol\u016f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Kdy\u017e se maminek pt\u00e1m, pro\u010d d\u011btem tak velmi pom\u00e1haj\u00ed, dostanu v\u0161elijak\u00e9 odpov\u011bdi. Nebo\u0165 je to mal\u00fd. Nebo\u0165 m\u00e1 kr\u00e1tk\u00e9 nohy. Nebo\u0165 se narodila zadkem nap\u0159ed. Nebo\u0165 mu jdou zuby a je podr\u00e1\u017ed\u011bn\u00fd. Nebo\u0165 m\u00e1 alergie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Respektuji to, ale nev\u011b\u0159\u00edm tomu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Batolata se pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed u\u010dit nov\u00e9 v\u011bci a pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed pozn\u00e1vat sv\u00e9 hranice<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      1. vyvol\u00e1v\u00e1 strach
        „Spadne!“<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

        „Ude\u0159\u00ed\u0161 se!“<\/p>\n\n\n\n

        Nebo to nejhor\u0161\u00ed, co jsem jednou sly\u0161ela: „spadl, zlom\u00ed\u0161 si nohu, p\u016fjde\u0161 do nemocnice a bude\u0161 tam bez m\u00e1my!“<\/p>\n\n\n\n

        Rozum\u00edm, \u017ee rodi\u010de to d\u011blaj\u00ed ze strachu, \u017ee se d\u00edt\u011bti n\u011bco stane. Ale takov\u00fdmi \u0159e\u010dmi ho mohou odradit od zkou\u0161en\u00ed nov\u00fdch v\u011bc\u00ed na cel\u00fd \u017eivot. Ten strach v nich toti\u017e m\u016f\u017ee z\u016fstat nav\u017edy. A pokud \u010dlov\u011bk nezkou\u0161\u00ed nov\u00e9 v\u011bci, nem\u016f\u017ee se nikam posunout, nem\u016f\u017ee nic nov\u00e9ho za\u017e\u00edt, nau\u010dit se. Jak\u00fd smysl m\u00e1 takov\u00fd pasivn\u00ed \u017eivot?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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        1. Po\u0159\u00e1d\u00e1me ve\u0161ker\u00fd \u010das
          Chceme, aby se na\u0161e d\u011bti vyv\u00edjely, a tak pro n\u011b chyst\u00e1me aktivity. Nyn\u00ed si jdeme \u010d\u00edst, nyn\u00ed jdeme skl\u00e1dat lego, dnes m\u00e1me takov\u00fd krou\u017eek, z\u00edtra onak\u00fd. \u0158\u00edzen\u00e9 aktivity jsou super v\u011bc, ale net\u0159eba to p\u0159eh\u00e1n\u011bt. Sta\u010d\u00ed na n\u011b p\u00e1r minut denn\u011b, mo\u017en\u00e1 p\u016fl hodina. Zbytek \u010dasu by d\u011bti m\u011bly tr\u00e1vit tak, jak samy uznaj\u00ed za vhodn\u00e9.<\/li><\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

          D\u011bl\u00e1me to v dobr\u00e9m, ale v podstat\u011b jim \u0161kod\u00edme. Batolata se pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed u\u010dit nov\u00e9 v\u011bci a pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed pozn\u00e1vat hranice. Zkusme to jinak!Nen\u00ed nad vlastn\u00ed zku\u0161enostN\u011bkdy, kdy\u017e vid\u00edm, co se moje dcera pokou\u0161\u00ed ud\u011blat, m\u00e1m hus\u00ed k\u016f\u017ei. A n\u011bkdy m\u00e1m bl\u00edzko k mal\u00e9mu infarktu. Nap\u0159\u00edklad kdy\u017e jako 18-m\u011bs\u00ed\u010dn\u00ed lezla po \u017eeb\u0159\u00edku. Nebo kdy\u017e se ve stejn\u00e9m […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":599,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-598","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-deti"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/krkouni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/598","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/krkouni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/krkouni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/krkouni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/krkouni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=598"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/krkouni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/598\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":601,"href":"https:\/\/krkouni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/598\/revisions\/601"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/krkouni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/599"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/krkouni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=598"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/krkouni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=598"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/krkouni.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=598"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}